In the past few weeks, traffic has really jumped and I wanted to say thanks. You’ve probably noticed comments have picked up and I’m glad you’re all talking.
Also, if you’re new, back in January I committed to writing every day. After that ended, I decided to just keep going. I think today is around day 88 or so.
Obviously, I don’t expect you to read everything. You’d have to have borderline personality disorder to do that. Some of you do. It’s okay, because I love attention from anyone.
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I feel like I should leave you with something with a little entertainment value. Hmm… Let’s see.
In my current relationship I immediately apologize for imperfect behavior. If I don’t provide my girlfriend with something she needs, I say, “I’m sorry – I’ll try harder.” And what she asks for is totally reasonable stuff. She’s not insecure or crazy. And a lot of women say, “Wow – she’s so lucky that you acknowledge what you can do to improve. My husband would never own his crap!”
And I understand how that may seem attractive, but I’m not sure it’s much better. See, I know what to do, and I just often don’t do it. As an imperfect being, this is okay, but how many times can you apologize for something before the other partner starts thinking, “He’s apologized forty-seven times for this, yet he’s never actually done anything to change it.”
This is where I get stuck. I’m great at the apology. I’m the first to fire off a sincere, “Hey, I totally hear your truth and I honor it. I can do better, and I’m sorry for X.” And, I’m no pussy. Women don’t walk over me. But when I fuck up, I have to admit and make amends. It’s the next step that’s hard – actually doing something.
Ha – I wrote an entire article without one joke. Maybe this wasn’t entertaining. I’m sorry, and I’ll do better tomorrow. (see what I did there?)
