Okay, I think I’ve found out in my relationships what triggers me into annoyance and then flat-out anger. It’s actually quite simple. See if you can dig this.
Something unusual is happening in the present. I make a comment about said unusual thing. The people I’m speaking to don’t recognize what’s unusual, or argue with me that it’s not true. Since I don’t think I’m nuts I try to explain again what I’m witnessing, and they keep pushing back. Then I raise my voice.