Took the dog to the beach today. Got sunburned.
There are some people in your life that you need to disengage and bolt.
Recently a woman that I went on a few dates with a year ago asked me to help her find an apartment. Since I have dozens of leasing agents that work at my office, I offered assistance. Apparently she had started seeing some guy in her building, an artsy type that could hardly pay the bills, and they decided to move in together to save on rent. They were in love, but there were problems in the relationship. He has erection issues and also they never see each other due to their schedules. She wanted to move out, but was afraid he would be devastated and not able to take care of himself. I provided no advice other than that she trust her feelings.
She found an apartment and then had to tell him the news. She texted me a few times (didn’t want to talk over the phone for fear the boyfriend would suspect something) about being nervous and knowing that this was going to break his heart. I told her that I was there to support her if she needed anything. Eventually she revealed to him that she was moving out. He got angry, shamed her, and the situation was hard for both of them. Like all breakups are.
A few weeks go by and I thought to check in with her. I sent a text asking for an update. She wrote back. “I’m alive. Barely, but still here.” I freaked out, picked up the phone and left a voicemail. I wanted to confirm she wasn’t laying in a hospital bed.
A day later I got a test that said, “Thank you for the call. I’m okay – but it’s more complicated now. I’ve met a boy.”
I wrote a message back – “Jesus. No more dating. Learn how to be alone for awhile.”
She wrote back – “Hey, dumb ass, I haven’t dated for the past year. That’s why I am now.”
Thoroughly confused, I started to write a message back. And then I did that thing that I have failed to do many times before. I paused and ask the question, “Is this worth my time?”
I looked for an upside to continue this conversation. I couldn’t find one. And then I remembered she had only reached out to me to ask for help. She didn’t seem to be interested in my life. I’m not mad at her, but I realized that is not what I need. Plus, she’s obviously a little batty. I have my own crazy to deal with.
So, I did the responsible thing. Deleted the text messages and went and bought flowers for my hanging boxes on my patio.
Sonja Rois says:
There are no petunias in that pic. Just saying. (Yeah I know you’ll give it to me for that comment. I’m willing to take it. lol)
I have ppl like that in my life. I tend to not give them too much thought or time. It’a a pain, but I personally believe everyone comes into my life for a reason and these ppl have their reason too. I haven’t found it yet, but I’m sure it’s there. Or I need to readjust my beliefs. One of those.
D.J. Paris says:
@Sonja Rois Ha – I know nothing about flowers except they require a shit-ton of water.
CarrieSieffert says:
Weird yo. But good on you for not being sucked into her nutty drama.
D.J. Paris says:
@CarrieSieffert Totally. But there is a pull for me to go back. That is my crazy.
pdk117 says:
Sounds to me like you should of followed through with the message and at least found out what she meant by she met a “BOY”. She could be getting herself into a whole new can of worms. “no pun intended”
D.J. Paris says:
@pdk117 You’re not kidding. She loves hanging out at the schoolyard.
Nadine Feldman says:
Yep, there are some things that remind us that life is just too darn short! I have no patience for these personal dramas.
D.J. Paris says:
@Nadine Feldman You and the chick above you love writing “life is too short” – you guys in a group together or something?
Nadine Feldman says:
@tfpHumorBlog Nope! We could form one, but then, life is too short for a life is too short group, IMHO. Nice to be included as a “chick” at my age! 🙂
D.J. Paris says:
@Nadine Feldman 21 is too young to call someone a “chick”?
D.J. Paris says:
@Nadine Feldman 21 is too young to call someone a “chick”?
Nadine Feldman says:
@tfpHumorBlog Nope! We could form one, but then, life is too short for a life is too short group, IMHO. Nice to be included as a “chick” at my age! 🙂
DeviTaylor says:
I agree. Life is too short to be dealing with other people’s crazy, especially people who only want to use you. I think you made the right call. Next time she texts or calls, ignore!
D.J. Paris says:
@DeviTaylor I have my own crazy to contend with!
Kristi says:
Good for you for knowing when to burn the bridge so the crazies can’t follow !