My Ex-Wife Got Married (But I’m Pretty Sure Still Uses My Last Name)

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In a ironic twist, my family is Spanish. 0% French.

This morning I was hit with something that I wasn’t expecting.

My ex-wife just got married. I was made aware of this because my veterinarian emailed my ex-wife who forwarded it to me. This is a little complicated. Explanation necessary, D.J.!

Christina and I divorced over two and half years ago. I still contact her every once in a while. We’re perfectly friendly and sometimes I need advice on pet stuff. She, too, is a vet. Well, my dog is due for a dental. This is a relatively routine procedure but when I called the animal hospital yesterday, the vet tech had expressed interest in giving her a catheter for anesthesia. My dog is very sensitive to shots and has become sick in the past for this kind of thing. My ex has instructed me to call her before any procedure to give the go-ahead. I’m glad she’s available as she’s a great doctor.

So, every now and then I call and talk about the dog or the cat. Our conversations are brief and amiable. We joke around for a minute and then get to business. I phoned her a few weeks ago because the government cut us a big check for seemingly no reason. We couldn’t figure it out, but were thrilled to get the cash. So, we have nice chats. Every so often one of us comes up with a joke about the pets and calls or texts it over. That’s the stuff we do.

In the year following the divorce, I worked through my anger and sadness. It was suggested to me at the time that I take the year off of dating. I should point out that it was my ex’s decision to leave the marriage. This was shocking and difficult for me to process, as it would be for anyone. So, I took my time. Learned how to be alone.

After a year I was over the divorce and became involved in a relationship. It ended last fall due to distance. Oh, and the fact that she sort of didn’t like me. Not a great quality for a long-term partner. Now, I’m back in the mix and dating up a storm. Just last week I hit seven dates in seven days. Was hilarious. And exhausting.

Anway, back to my ex-wife.

So I called her yesterday and after the business about the dog’s teeth she asked, “So, what’s going on?” She has never, in all our talks, expressed interest in my personal life. It’s always been business, a quick joke, and then off the phone. I just said, “Nothing much,” and hung up the phone as quick as possible. I’m not interested in telling her about my dating marathon.

Then this morning I get an email where she had messaged the vet who’s going to take care of Meepers during the dental. She told him the procedure she wanted him to do. He replied and agreed, but at the end also said, “Congrats on the nuptials!”

Did she accidentally forget to delete that line before sending to me or did she do it on purpose in a fucked-up, passive aggressive way? Or maybe she just didn’t give a shit. Who knows? Well, after Googling “nuptials” I learned it meant she got married.

Here’s the part that pissed me off. She still uses my last name. To this day. Now, I don’t quite understand this plan. She was a Johnson for thirty-two years. Decent last name. Marries me for two years, and then leaves. Keeps the name. Weird, but whatever. Then marries a new dude. Still keeps the name. Double weird.

And yes, I can understand that “Paris” is kind of a neat last name. But to keep it after a failed marriage and then a new one is really bizarre. I can only hope that her new husband’s name is “Feltersnatch.” Then it would make sense.

So, today I’ve been sad and angry. Sad that my ex-wife has moved on. It’s natural to be a little depressed. Mad because she didn’t have the courage to tell me the night before on the phone. I suspect it’s because she knew I would say, “Finally – you’re getting rid of my name!”

“Um… about that…”

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In a ironic twist, my family is Spanish. 0% French.

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70 thoughts on “My Ex-Wife Got Married (But I’m Pretty Sure Still Uses My Last Name)”

  1. Katjaneway says:

    I’m about to get divorced myself but I am DEFINITELY keeping my last name “Gurley”, as opposed to going back to my maiden name “Vanlandingham”. Besides, it’s so much easier to not have to change anything over again. That’s a big hassle, but I suppose men wouldn’t know anything about that :P. And if I’d met the man I was going to marry and his last name was longer or worse than Gurley you bet I would keep it, unless it bugged the living hell out of him. Some guys are possessive like that. They need to be more progressive instead!

    1. D.J. Paris says:

      Well, you get a pass from me as one of my most dedicated readers. I don’t care if you go cut the brakes on a cub scout schoolbus. Plus, don’t marry a guy named Rotenbush.

    2. grace says:

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  2. Arlene says:

    Good post. A lot of things must be going on in your head. Time will help.
    My ex used to call every month to make sure I had received his alimony check. Never told me he got married. Now, sometimes the checks are in her handwriting, I wonder how she feels forking over $1000 every month? Oh well. That’s how the ex’s bounce. he still has never mentioned he got married to a ‘whore’. Sorry, had to tell the truth.

    1. D.J. Paris says:

      Um, how do I get on this alimony thing? Do I have to have kids and stuff? Pass. Wait – how much? Maybe.

  3. Kate Hall says:

    This post is awesome. Funny and real. When I saw the title, by my reaction, you’d think I was watching a soap opera. I said, “Say whaaaaa…? I gotta read this.” I can’t believe she got remarried and didn’t mention it. Crap. But I guess it’s her life and all.

    I laughed out loud at you googling nuptials (I know that was a joke. Although I could see you doing that just to verify that you were indeed seeing what you read.) So funny! And then her new husband’s potential last name – hilarious!

    I bet this is hard for you, for real. I remember how I was kind of sad when I found out that one of my boyfriends from high school had gotten married. It was kind of depressing, and that was just a short relationship between two kids! Wish I had something encouraging to say for you, but I don’t, other than I loved this post.

    1. D.J. Paris says:

      Yo Kate Hall!

      I actually wasn’t entirely sure if nuptials meant getting engaged or married. I hadn’t the foggiest. It’s not so much hard for me as it was just a body reaction to heavy news. I think I’m good now and it’s only a day later.

      Thanks for continuing to be such a great supporter!

  4. gina says:

    dude. that sucked. sorry. i’ve personally never been married and can only imagine what ‘weird’ on that level would feel like. also, you explained it pretty well. i commend you for allowing yourself to go “there” with the sad and angry. nicely done. my advice from here out: strap yourself for the day you learn they have a kid. that “there” hurts like hell. and sucks like something rotten. sorry. for being real. but, thank you for keepin’ it real too.

    1. D.J. Paris says:

      I don’t think the kid thing would bother me as we hadn’t got to that part in the marriage yet where we were trying. Plus, I bet they would have a stupid, ugly son!

      I was totally kidding. T’was an easy joke.

      I don’t actively think about her life but getting married is just a heavy deal no matter what the ex relationship is – also, I’m single which didn’t help with a little loneliness that set it last night. But I’m fine now – and ready to write more sophomoric stuff for you.

      1. gina says:

        you’re lucky that the “kid” announcement won’t bother you. i never got to that point in any of my former relationships either but somehow, it stung. or maybe it’s my ovaries that were bugged. eh. and from a professional ex-girlfriend with many ex currently-married boyfriends, they do have “stupid ugly kids” 😉 see, i can joke too! just not about my legs. annnnnnnnd we’re moving on…

  5. catherine gacad says:

    this post is a goodie, thank you for sharing your personal story. the reality and genuineness is very relatable.

    1. D.J. Paris says:

      Thanks, Catherine!

      Also, as a double poster you get double points from the comment Gods. This will be redeemed upon death. (they hook you up with a better view in heaven).

  6. catherine gacad says:

    Sorry for the back-to-back comments. I wanted to ask if your ex-wife reads your blog and if by writing this, you get to share with her indirectly how you really feel.

    1. D.J. Paris says:

      She doesn’t (at least I don’t think so), but you’re right. Maybe there’s a little passive aggressiveness coming from my direction!

      I just don’t feel the need to share this with her. But with the world? Absolutely! Ha. I’m weird.

      1. Sarah L. says:

        Writing a post like this is cathartic…..

        I am sure it’s great to get support from people. (I personally loved the honesty and transparency)

        Possibly annoying when they rant in the comments (unless you’re super empathetic / sympathetic)

        Bottom line…writing something like this is for you, not them. Who cares if your ex reads it. If it helps you move on. DO it……and well…you did. 🙂

  7. KoKoKovane says:

    This was stellar! I needed that chuckle. Funny that life’s oddest and sometimes poignant moment are best with a chuckle. Paris is a cool last name…for a Spaniard.

    1. D.J. Paris says:

      Thanks! Glad my pain could make you laugh. Ha!

      Sorry – had to. 🙂

      1. KoKoKovanen says:

        Touche. Your quips and witty touches…wishing her new husbands name to be more than a mouthful, etc. do make me chuckle. The wit keeps a lite air to even the pains that hide in our hearts and minds. The wit makes it more palatable and approachable. My fave last line…um…about that. Admit it, it’s odd for her to keep a name of two years and odd translates into humor. The alternative is anger and that me dear Blogger just isn’t worth your time.

  8. mothers little hleper says:

    Sad and funny at the same time.
    I dont get the name thing though. Here in the east, way away from the US, asian women dont take their husbands names. We get to keep our maiden names forever. I kinda like that!

    1. D.J. Paris says:

      I should have married an Asian broad! Do they make them in “blonde”?

  9. Sarah says:

    I get it..if I were you I’d be über annoyed re name keeping.
    Who cares if it’s a pain to change? You can’t just keep a name after the marriage is over?
    “oh and I’m keeping your plasma ,house and car keys….and your soul….and trust fund.yeah cool .seeya!”
    No.
    That’s lazy .

    1. D.J. Paris says:

      Wait – you have a trust fund? Fine, I didn’t think I was going to feel this way early in the morning, but…

      Would you marry me?

  10. Ava says:

    I left a relationship and divorced nine years ago and have kept my married name, mostly due to our child who has the same last name. Legally it made things easier. And I didn’t like my maiden name, couldn’t wait to get rid of it! It wasn’t such a bad name in itself but put it with my first name and slur it together a bit and my name would have sounded like Avis Teiner…mmm…not so good.

    Anyway…the man I was married to and the father to our child married again and now the woman he’s married to has the same last name. As an aside…I don’t like using ‘my’ as it relates to people (“my ex” for example) as it signifies having ownership of another…not my game. So, getting back to same last names…I received some mail by accident and it said Mr. and Mrs. R….but I’m not the Mrs. anymore. That felt really strange. To have the same last name but not be part of the relationship felt odd.

    I do know that if, and a pretty big if, I get married again I probably will change my last name…and it’s been nine years so things truly have settled down and plenty of time has passed for everyone to relax about it all. I’m not so sure I’ll get married again because I’ve been there and done that and had the ‘fairytale’ wedding. I’ve had all the children I’m going to have. So legally…meh…does it really matter? Maybe, maybe not. I would have a ceremony of sorts, but marriage…meh!

    1. D.J. Paris says:

      Totally different because you have a child. That is perfectly acceptable. Also, less confusing for the kids.

      That being said, marry someone with a cool name. It’s worth it. Just ask my ex! 🙂

  11. Carolina HeartStrings says:

    Well since you were only married a short time it is a little confusing. What of professional importance has happened while she’s had that name? Is her name part of a business? I was married in ’98, divorced in ’02 and engaged to a wonderful man now. I have told him I plan on keeping my “ex’s” name. It is actually, to me, MY name now. I have had licenses, certificates, businesses, children, board positions, etc., etc. under this name. In fact, due to his shady character and his dabbling in the same business as me I wish HE had changed his name at divorce. But…. no such luck. I guess you can only hope that it irritates the new husband. I know my fiance is less than pleased.

    1. D.J. Paris says:

      Nope – she was a doctor before I met her. She just thinks the name is cool. Which, you know, is kind of funny. I can appreciate the humor in that.

      Plus, now we can say, “The Paris’ finally have a doctor in the family.”

  12. @bluenotebacker says:

    I don’t envy anyone their divorce. While I know sometimes we can be in the wrong relationships, divorce is never easy or fun, and mine was terrible, though I’m glad I’m not still married. I cannot even begin to understand why your ex-wife would keep YOUR last name after getting re-married. When I got married my (ex)wife kept her own last name and I couldn’t have cared less. I think I’d be more irritated if she did what yours is doing. Weird.

    Keep on keepin’ on, DJ, who are we to try and understand how a woman’s mind works, amirite?

    1. D.J. Paris says:

      I know how a woman’s mind works. Oh wait, no I don’t. It’s a mystery. Something about feeling lots of different things within seconds of each other. 🙂

  13. Linda Kinsman says:

    Thanks for sharing your heart with us. Sounds like a pretty rough day all in all. I do so hope your ex reads your blog, because she needs a reality check on several fronts: relationships might be a good place for her to start.

    1. D.J. Paris says:

      Ha! Thanks Linda.

      She’s a good egg, just a little weird about things. And I don’t follow that up with, “Well, we’re all a little weird.” Nope. Some of us are more weird than others.

      I’m more hoping none of my future dates read this and think I’m still hung up on my ex!

  14. Jessica Nettles says:

    My ex did that…twice. Only, he didn’t announce it to me. He announced it to our children. The first time, he got married and revealed it to them when he picked them up one weekend. The second time, he called their cell phones and left a message: “We got married this weekend. Isn’t that great?” Strangely, neither time was I sad or angry that he married. Maybe it was because we’d split after ten years, and my love for him had long been killed off, or maybe it was because he was really toxic and I was smart enough to know that I was better off out of the relationship. I also did not keep his last name even though my children did. Taking my maiden name back was a personal symbol of my freedom.

    I’m really sorry that you are hurting. Sometimes there is no accounting for why people do what they do. Perhaps she did not tell you because she didn’t deem her getting married as something that would impact you since you are no longer a couple. There is nothing that can be gained by mulling over her decision. Keep moving forward.

    1. D.J. Paris says:

      Oh, totally. This was a bit tongue-in-cheek. I wasn’t devastated. It just stung a bit. The good news is that she’s not nuts and, even if she was, I wouldn’t ever have to talk to her if I didn’t want to.

      Maybe when I get married we can do a double date and I can corner the new husband and ask him what it feels like that she kept my name. Ha.

      1. Jessica Nettles says:

        That would be really funny to see that play out. It’s good she’s not nuts and that you have no children between you.

  15. Smooth says:

    I have been thinking about this lately as we discuss a “paramour clause” in our divorce agreement. I know it is going to be hard anyway we slice it. I feel for you man. I think it is low class that she didn’t have the guts to tell you she got married. You deserve more respect than to find out that way….

    I know when I am in your shoes it is going to be hard.

    1. D.J. Paris says:

      Well, I’m not in love with her anymore, so it isn’t THAT big of a deal. But it did make for a great story!

      Good luck through your divorce. Make sure to lean on your friends. They want you to.

  16. Mandy says:

    If I ever got my hands on the last name Paris you can bet your sweet croissants I would keep it.

    I texted my ex that I was getting remarried and then he yelled at me for being insensitive and not telling him via phone. What can I say? I was nervous about how he would take it and I’m a conflict avoider. Not saying that’s the right way to go about it, but maybe your ex was nervous too? Especially since you two have a good relationship.

    1. D.J. Paris says:

      Oh I don’t care that she didn’t tell me in person. She’s a bit cowardly in such matters. It’s just I didn’t want to find out via an email that she forwarded. I thought that was weird.

      And thanks for the name compliment!

      1. Mandy says:

        It was totally weird! I’m always trying to figure out why people are weird, sometimes to no avail.

  17. Emelie says:

    Wow. I’m really sorry! That sucks! Not to be “that person”, but I wonder what her side in all of this is? You definitely have a right to feel what you’re feeling, though. It’s so odd that you had to find out via a forwarded email… It’s even odder that she’s keeping your name… I’m confused about all her decisions right now and I don’t even know her.

    1. D.J. Paris says:

      Oh, I’m sure she has a side and it’s probably a lot more logical than I’m giving her credit for. Not knowing the side enables me to write a better story, though! Ha.

    2. Jetsin says:

      To think, I was coufesnd a minute ago.

  18. Emily says:

    First off, I love that you googled “nuptials.” This was a great post — honest and funny. I’m a bit perplexed by the last name thing too. I once worked with a woman whose name was Deborah ****. You’d think a woman with that last name would be dying to get rid of it, right? So, Deborah **** gets married to a man with the last name “***.” A lovely last name. So, what does Deborah **** do? She hyphenates!! Her name is now Deborah ****-****. People can be strange.

    Editor’s Note – The above person’s name has been redacted for privacy reasons. I can assure you, however, that it was hilarious. Her husband contacted me to take it down. I guess with the woman’s new name, she gets goofed on a lot. Poor thing. It was almost as funny as the guy I grew up with named B.J. Seaman.

    1. D.J. Paris says:

      Okay, this is funny. I knew a girl named Deborah Dicker! No jive!

      Also, my name on all the dating sites, funny enough, is D***-*****. I get lots of attention from that.

      Editor’s note – also redacted. Which is a shame because my reply was hilarious, too.

  19. Naked Girl in a Dress says:

    Ugh. What a tough thing. I am sorry for all those feelings you are dealing with right now.

    I recently became engaged and, for what it is worth, it was really hard to tell my ex. It shouldn’t be, right? That’s what I would have thought before I went through it myself. It took some thought in how to do it, but I did.

    As for the name–funny story. My finace did not have children with his last wife (um, there have been a few) and demanded he have his name back in the divorce negotiations.

  20. Jean says:

    Aw, dude, sorry to hear that. I have never been married, but I can imagine it’s a weird numb-startling feeling when someone big like that happens and the person didn’t give you any forewarning. Even though you are sad and angry (which I applaud you for being honest and not suppressing) maybe this can be a positive, final push for you. Besides, you are a guy, you’ll will be looked at as having swagger well into your 40’s.

    Love your blog — the honesty, humor and interesting life you lead makes for a great read. I hope one of those seven dates turns into something special! And you are right– Paris is a pretty neat name. So, you won that round. Good luck, DJ.

  21. Rachael says:

    My mom has been married 6 times starting in 1973 at 17, she has changed her name back to her maiden name every time. My roommate on the other hand had to fight to get her name back in her divorce, her ex husband wanted her to keep his last name.

  22. Jen says:

    I think sadness is totally natural. When your ex moves on, even when you don’t want them or YOU have also moved on, it’s still a jolt to your little bubble of reality. It means a lot of connections to all the little fabrics that held your relationship together, even if it was brief. The brain is weird. I do think it’s strange for her not to mention it to you on the phone, especially since you talk once in a while about dogs and cats and there’s a friendship and respect there. I think avoidance is probably easier and perhaps, yes, the line in the email was her way of dropping it on you without having to deal with that conversation.

    Would you have told her if you remarry? Before or after? I know I would absolutely tell my ex-husband, because it means something. And Paris is a cool name. Probably cooler than the new one.

  23. WilyGuy says:

    I’m sure she kept the name because changing it on email sucks…lol

    I can imagine that weird depressing feeling. In the middle of a separation that isn’t my idea…I can imagine I have fun days like that ahead.

    Learning to be alone (we have kids so alone is relative) is very hard.

    Thanks for sharing.

    WG

  24. Ericamos says:

    I’m going to get married this year, and with some reluctance, I’m going to go the traditional route and give up the maiden name I’ve had for almost 32 years. The name that is mine and has been mine. Which is why it’s so weird to me that she’s keeping your name. I get that it’s a hassle to do all that paperwork, but if I were to become divorced, I’m pretty sure I’d want my sole identity back regardless of how badass my ex-married name was. Also, so sorry you had to find out about it in that way; especially because you two do keep in touch. Not cool on her part.

  25. Lauren K says:

    I can totally relate to this. I found out that my ex-husband got remarried via an email…from his new wife. After we divorced, his then girlfriend tried to become friendly with me. Probably because she wanted to get the scoop on her man from me (which she never did). Anyway, from time to time she’d email me. Well, one email I received from her informed me of her new email address because of her name change (to my ex-husband’s last name). Ouch. Not a great way to find out that news. But I suppose it’s better than how I found out that he impregnated her (prior to even their engagement).

    My ex-husband included me on an a mass email that had the subject “look what I made” – email had a sonogram picture. That really really hurt. Incredibly insensitive of him, especially since we had talked about having kids when we were married.

  26. Katy Anders says:

    My ex just got married, too.

    Except we’re not on good terms. I’m not sure why, because I’m delightful as a person.

    We don’t even talk about our animals – of which there were/are about forty (small, eight-legged ones, mostly).

    7 dates in 7 days, though? THAT sounds like a couple potential blog posts right there!

  27. JennyJ says:

    Interesting that she left that little tidbit of info in the email. I have to believe it was pretty passive-agressive. Someone who just got married is pretty effing excited about it. Unless it was Kim K or Britney Spears. Just saying.

    My ex called me about a year after we got divorced. Apparently the woman he left me for broke up with him. So he let me know that “we could do whatever we wanted now.” I told him that I wanted to help him stick his d**k in a meat grinder. Haven’t heard from him since. 🙂

    Hang in there. Dating is not for the weak of heart.

  28. Mod Mom Beyond IndieDom says:

    Well it is a cool last name, but so not cool to keep it after getting remarried. That’s weird. The email thing does seem kind of passive aggressive. Women. We can’t figure ourselves out half the time.
    Hang in there my friend and give that adorable Chihuahua with the pearly whites a hug for me!

  29. Shirley Maya Tan says:

    May she just wanted to keep a piece of Paris with her for all times 🙂 Who could blame her, right? It’s such a cool last name 🙂

  30. Lynn L. says:

    It is a cool last name. But that’s weird – on all sides. I have to wonder how her new spouse feels about her keeping her ex’s last name. It’s also sad she didn’t have the courage to tell you herself. It sometimes doesn’t feel like it will, but this too shall pass. And you have my applause on the dating marathon. Sadly, I haven’t had a real date in almost 2 years. At this point, I’d just be happy to have 1 – I can’t imagine 7 in 7 days.

  31. Catzsparkles says:

    You do have a cool last name. Maybe she was having a hard time moving on as well for awhile. I dunno. Good luck

  32. Kellee Farr says:

    Great post.
    “Well, after Googling “nuptials” I learned it meant she got married.” BEST EVER!

    Feltersnatch???? LOLOL

    So happy I stopped by. Thanks for the laughs, sorry about the weird ex.

  33. Sarah says:

    My mom has been married twice. When re-married, she took her new husband’s name. Kept it after they divorced for a few years and then…picked a random new name for herself. Didn’t like her maiden or either of her married names so she just made one up. Points for creativity!

  34. Vicki Hughes says:

    It would be cool of you could repossess your last name, send a burly, bearded guy to her house at three a.m. to take back her checks, debit cards and drivers license. “I’m sorry lady, but it’s just my job.”

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  36. Sonja Rois says:

    I kept my ex’s last name when we divorced. I am soon to get remarried and I am going to hyphenate my ex’s last name with my new husband’s. I did (or will do) both of these things for the same reason…I have a daughter with my ex husband and want to keep the same last name as my child. If there were no kid in the picture (like your situation) I would drop my ex’s last name like it was poison. Not that there is anything wrong with it, but it would just be weird to keep it. And personally I would feel it would be a bit disrespectful to both my ex and my new husband. I get along with my ex and have explained that I will be hyphenating and actually asked him if that was ok or would it make him uncomfortable (my ex and current hate each other) and he said it was fine because he understood my reason. I discussed it with my current so that he would understand why I would keep that connection with my ex and understands that my daughter is my everything, but I still want to honor the fact that I am connected to him. But wait for the day my daughter marries and changes her last name and my ex can have his back faster than the DMV can print me a new ID with ONLY my currents last name.

  37. Dana says:

    I just got married and everyone is made I changed my name. Apparently Losey is no where as cool as Duncan. I disagree. Also side note. I’m wife number three and the first two changed their name back to their maiden names. Weird to me cause one was married for like 10 years while the other has a kid with him. Maybe Losey isn’t all that cool.

  38. B-Blah says:

    I can’t imagine why anyone would hang on to their ex’s name. Dropping of a married surname and reverting to a maiden surname should be made mandatory in the divorce decree. As a divorcee myself, I was glad I hadn’t taken on my ex’s surname in the first place. Even if I had, I’d have dropped it like a hot potato the moment we signed those papers.

    Incidentally, my ex got engaged (secretly) before our divorce was final and got married (also in a small secret ceremony) less than two weeks after our divorce. Unfortunately for him, his new wife splashed those pictures on Facebook and his little secret was out. Ah, tales of divorce. You got to love them! 😉

    1. Katjaneway says:

      really? You’d go back to Vanlandingham after getting a name like Gurley? What drugs are you on? I got married when I was 25 and 20 years of signing that damn name was long enough!!

      1. D.J. Paris says:

        No, Gurley is way better. Good call.

  39. Holly Golightly says:

    Did you ever think that maybe…you should have asked her about it? That maybe….it meant nothing….or that maybe she was trying to impress you because someone else had told her something about you suggesting that you had remarried already, more than once, and were just happy as could be? Maybe she never moved on. Maybe no one close to her ever asked, and maybe she is in reality a private person who doesn’t want every detail of her personal life out there for the internet to mock….maybe…maybe people need to be honest in person, even though it hurts like a bitch.

    1. Biana says:

      It’s spooky how clever some ppl are. Thkans!

  40. stilla says:

    Hello I am out here to spreed this good news to the entire world on how i got my ex love back.I was going crazy when my love left me for another girl last month,But when i meet a friend that introduce me to Dr Akhere the great messenger to the oracle that he serve,I narrated my problem to Dr Akhere about how my ex love left me and also how i needed to get a job in a very big company.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what i need to do,After it was been done,In the next 2 days,My love called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me before now and also in the next one week after my love called me to be pleading for forgiveness,I was called for interview in my desired company were i needed to work as the managing director..I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact Dr Akhere at the following email address: DrAkerespiritualtemple@gmail.comand get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve..Contact him direct on: DrAkerespiritualtemple@gmail . and get your problems solve like me..

  41. JANE says:

    I was crushed when my lover of three years left to be with another woman. I cried and sobbed every day, until it got so bad that I reached out to the Internet for help.And i saw a testimony of a spell caster who help a girl called caston and i said let me give it a try so i contact him for help and he cast a love spell for me which i use in getting my love back and now i am a happy woman.Foe what you have done for me,i will not stop to share your goodness to people out there for the good work you are doing.I hope God blesses you as much as you have help me to get my Love back,visit him on prophetezuzuarenaofsolution@gmail.com ,he is the only answer to your problems.

  42. Ankita says:

    It is wonderful of you to be telling us this through humour, but I hope, in all seriousness, that you will eventually feel better about all of this. In fact, considering that this is a late comment, I hope you’re already cool with it all and have moved past it. Good luck, and cheers.

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