Live Vlog From Blogher 2013 – Should I Confront a Chick Who Dumped Me?
11 thoughts on “Live Vlog From Blogher 2013 – Should I Confront a Chick Who Dumped Me?”
ginasays:
i think you should approach her with a “hello, how’s it going?” interaction rather than a “confrontation”. this casual attitude shows her that you’re cool with what happened between you two and that you’re still around. in female terms:”i’m not affected and here’s what you’re missing. still.” let us know how your event turns out!
I decided not to say anything at all. Although it would have made for some decent blog fodder, there’s really just no upside. I don’t like making people feel uncomfortable and I also don’t want to be rejected again. Ha!
She probably knows how to find you. Maybe that is why she is even there. Maybe her work sent her and she balked because she did not want to see you. I say move on and go find yourself a new date who doesn’t blow you off.
Oh, I’m pretty sure she knew I was there even before seeing me. I’m sure we talked about it on our date. I’m moving on for sure. Thanks for being one of my most dedicated readers. Means a lot to me.
Danasays:
Heh heh heh heh heh. That sort of confrontation is exactly the sort of thing that gets a woman labeled “psycho b?!ch” by her ex and all his friends. Best not. I know temptation is strong but you gotta be stronger, man!
Oh, I know. And I’m not a psycho. I get that she’s not into me. Obviously. But there’s that part of me that still wants her approval. It’s just human nature I think. So, I just breathed into it and walked on. 🙂
What do you mean by “confront”? Do you have some unresolved feelings about the break up? If so I suggest you remind yourself that it is her right to break up with you. Why should she spend all her time with you if it doesn’t feel right? Don’t blame yourself and don’t blame her for the break up, just look at it as something that happened. Just say hi and be nice.
Okay, worst case scenario, she’s a bitch, and then you feel like crap for bothering. Best case scenario, this somehow translates into another date…which means you’re now dating someone who already blew you off once, and then you’ll have to overcome that shaky start.
In the interest of dignity…ignore unless she says something to you, first.
Exactly – we ignored each other and all is fine. I just couldn’t believe the coincidence. 🙂
Crissysays:
If you were to “confront” her, she might say something like, “I’m sorry, but it makes me a little uncomfortable how dating dozens of women and then blogging about seems kind of like a part-time job of yours.” But I can only speak from my own experience. I might imagine these girls you never hear back from might have similar thoughts FOR Paris.
Ugh – the thought of dating dozens of women to get to one who actually connects at a deep and fulfilling level is depressing. I sincerely hope it’s my very next date. You’re not wrong that writing about dates can be off-putting. I get it. But, I also have to find someone that sees and accepts the guy who puts goofy videos out there about being rejected. 🙂
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gina says:
i think you should approach her with a “hello, how’s it going?” interaction rather than a “confrontation”. this casual attitude shows her that you’re cool with what happened between you two and that you’re still around. in female terms:”i’m not affected and here’s what you’re missing. still.” let us know how your event turns out!
D.J. Paris says:
I decided not to say anything at all. Although it would have made for some decent blog fodder, there’s really just no upside. I don’t like making people feel uncomfortable and I also don’t want to be rejected again. Ha!
Jessica Ehlers says:
She probably knows how to find you. Maybe that is why she is even there. Maybe her work sent her and she balked because she did not want to see you. I say move on and go find yourself a new date who doesn’t blow you off.
D.J. Paris says:
Thanks JE!
Oh, I’m pretty sure she knew I was there even before seeing me. I’m sure we talked about it on our date. I’m moving on for sure. Thanks for being one of my most dedicated readers. Means a lot to me.
Dana says:
Heh heh heh heh heh. That sort of confrontation is exactly the sort of thing that gets a woman labeled “psycho b?!ch” by her ex and all his friends. Best not. I know temptation is strong but you gotta be stronger, man!
D.J. Paris says:
Oh, I know. And I’m not a psycho. I get that she’s not into me. Obviously. But there’s that part of me that still wants her approval. It’s just human nature I think. So, I just breathed into it and walked on. 🙂
Isabelle says:
What do you mean by “confront”? Do you have some unresolved feelings about the break up? If so I suggest you remind yourself that it is her right to break up with you. Why should she spend all her time with you if it doesn’t feel right? Don’t blame yourself and don’t blame her for the break up, just look at it as something that happened. Just say hi and be nice.
Megly Mc says:
Okay, worst case scenario, she’s a bitch, and then you feel like crap for bothering. Best case scenario, this somehow translates into another date…which means you’re now dating someone who already blew you off once, and then you’ll have to overcome that shaky start.
In the interest of dignity…ignore unless she says something to you, first.
D.J. Paris says:
Exactly – we ignored each other and all is fine. I just couldn’t believe the coincidence. 🙂
Crissy says:
If you were to “confront” her, she might say something like, “I’m sorry, but it makes me a little uncomfortable how dating dozens of women and then blogging about seems kind of like a part-time job of yours.” But I can only speak from my own experience. I might imagine these girls you never hear back from might have similar thoughts FOR Paris.
D.J. Paris says:
Ugh – the thought of dating dozens of women to get to one who actually connects at a deep and fulfilling level is depressing. I sincerely hope it’s my very next date. You’re not wrong that writing about dates can be off-putting. I get it. But, I also have to find someone that sees and accepts the guy who puts goofy videos out there about being rejected. 🙂