This has probably happened before, I’m sure.
Facebook doesn’t send you a message that says, “Hey bozo, somebody has decided you’re not worth following anymore. Cheers!” That would be sort of cruel. But funny, too.
I realized that I hadn’t talked with a friend of mine in a while. This is a girl from a support group I’m in that I met a few years back. I hadn’t seen her around in a year or so, and we recently got caught up. She is particularly interesting because all her friends that I knew she recently decided to shit-can. She also stopped going to group meetings.
When I asked why she ditched all her friends in the program, she basically said that they all sucked and weren’t good friends. Whatever. I don’t know how it works with girls. I know that women kick people in and out of their lives all the time.
I found this particularly fascinating and wacky, but, truth be told, I sort of dug her. She was nice, smart and funny.
Then I got this crazy email today after I sent her a message asking how she had been doing.
I won’t publish it because it’s super-nuts. Also, when somebody thinks you’re an asshole, you’ll forever be that to them. Basically what went down was that she has a Google+ account. So do I. Google+ has this feature where they suggest people (sort of like Facebook does, but WAY more broad) that you might want to add to your circles. Since I have many readers, often times I get added to peoples’ circles. I want to be connected to my awesome fans, so I simply copy and paste everyone in that recommended list into my “friend” circle. I don’t look at the names, and I don’t care. I figure they’re all readers of mine.
So, in her email she was like, “Why did you add my boyfriend and mom to your Google+ circle?” She thought that was creepy – and she is right. Had I done this intentionally, it would be weird. The funny thing is I have no idea who her boyfriend is, nor her mother. Nor do I give a shit. I don’t look at who I add – I add everybody. Then she said something about, “How am I going to explain how I know you to them?”
Then she simply ended the email with “you’re deleted” which meant (I’m guessing) from Facebook. I haven’t checked.
And then it hit me tonight, “Oh wait, this is the same girl who threw out all her friends last year!” I’m sort of proud to be part of that group.
Katrina says:
Hmm sometimes it’s easier when people un/de friend you…..it saves you from having to do it when they go totally loopy loo loo.
I have had people message me saying why have you added my boy/best friend dad etc etc….umm okay so that’s their connection to you….I know them through work/sport/online group…..I am allowed to have friends apart from you
D.J. Paris says:
With Google+ they don’t even show you the relationship one recommendation has to another – plus I don’t use Google+ for anything other than posting a story link. People are weird. All I know is that I’m super awesome. Like the best ever.
Amanda Dellinger says:
You’re right….we ladies do throw people in and out of our lives all the time. It’s really just a test to see who will fight and claw their way back into our lives, but I digress. What you are dealing with here is a girl who clearly suffers from paranoia. Why would she need to explain to her boyfriend (or her MOM, what the heck?) how she knows you? What is the likeliness that he’d actually care to know how she knows you?? Slim to none.
I think the moral of the story is to never, and I repeat, never try to buddy up with someone in a support group. Cry on eachother’s shoulder in the privacy of your support group and pretend you’ve never met when you pass on the street. Kind of like you would with a hooker.
D.J. Paris says:
@Amanda Dellinger So I should cancel the “I’m Sorry” Tiffany tennis bracelet I ordered for her?
MeganHoskinsMaybee says:
Such girly drama. I love the picture, made me laugh!
D.J. Paris says:
@MeganHoskinsMaybee Megs, that photo is of one of my dear readers, and I’d ask you not to make fun of Carol.
reyreyz says:
RT @delfinparis I Got DeFriended – And Decided To Write About It! http://t.co/7V6SwO5v #blogboost
DontSpkWhinese says:
Dude, how did you find that picture of me rocking my Mickey glove and orange tutu?
D.J. Paris says:
@DontSpkWhinese I’m friends with your exes.
Crack You Whip says:
I got “defriended’ this week by someone I can’t stand, yet I had the nerve to get mad! I am happy now, but we have all of the same friends so that sucks…
D.J. Paris says:
@Crack You Whip Just learn to speak poorly of them in front of the friends. That should work.
BrookieCookie says:
Bitches be crazy.
WTH? The pic at the end made me laugh out loud in front of a patient, but I think he farted so we’re even.
D.J. Paris says:
@BrookieCookie Brookles – my favorite comment of the day. Well done.
BrookieCookie says:
@delfinparis My work here is done. Good day sir.
WPCandi says:
@delfinparis You were the first person to follow me. I’m totally bummed you probably don’t even know my name. 🙁
breatheeasyy says:
The worst is when you click on somebody’s facebook page, who you Know you have been friends with, only to find that you’ve been deleted and are left with the unyielding question of “What have I done?”. My friends Bill and Bob would get a kick out of this story
D.J. Paris says:
@breatheeasyy Yeah, I never thought to do that! I bet it’s happened a few times to me. 🙂
CarrieSieffert says:
I’m a girl and I don’t throw people away. Of course I’m socially inept so if I throw people away I’ll end up awfully lonely.
D.J. Paris says:
@CarrieSieffert You have to throw away a few along the ride. Like that one guy. You know who I’m talking about. HIM.
Angela McKeown says:
I recently had someone defriend me on FB…but the funny thing is they continued to follow me on the FB page for my blog. So I guess they like me as a blogger but not as a friend? Go figure. LOL