Now that’s subtle! Great to hear from you.

That’s what we’ve all been waiting for! Great ponigst!

Lastly, he HAD interests. I found and met many who seemingly live on their couches and watch way too much TV! Or are bar flies. or chasing girls. or stuck on their computers/gadgets/gamers. And in his interests he was more than passionate about them. his eyes light up a room when he speaks of something he is passionTe about. and i know i bring out a lot of that in him becaude i was abhorrbelty opposed to oil drilling and whined on and on about it when ee first met and his smirk grew into a smile when he’d realize we have like minded interests and opinions. He became head coach in a private school team. He himself would have played in the majors had it not been for a biking accident that ended up in multiple surgeries. And he is going on his Ph.D. He has the left brain/right brain going on (oh so important to me because I’m the same. I work in law, am an athlete and I read and love art and music and knowledge like my life depends on it) except he can only think linear thoughts which drives me insane.

It’s been 4 years now and it feels like I’m still enthralled with him now as much as from the day I fell in love with him. (Which was our first date after a few weeks of meeting and talking and texting).

That’s one long damn honeymoon period if you ask me.

And it’s because: you’re right. It’s in companionship, the ability to hold an interest and converse in like minded matters. As we grow old with that person, we will want the person we can talk to, understand each other, commiserate with and enjoy events and outings even if not always on the same subjects or events. And it’d be wonderful if you fell in love with that same person. A rare day in June indeed! (A poem we both like. Yes he likes poetry too).

He told me he felt I was passionate in my life and interests yet a pacifist in general yet thinks I’m avant Garde (art/music/culture). I think he’s small town boy who never left the states but has wordly knowledge above my own comprehension. Ironically I am the one who grew up on a farm but am world traveled after living first in NYC fresh out of high school to go to art school.
All of these things make me happy we met after reading your post it’s like “yes”, nodding my head. knowing what you mean. and when you have what I’ve had and then meet people who have little to no interests and are not even comfortable in their own hobbies or whatever, you can’t make them into something they are not. You really hope the interests are a LITTLE more in line with yours (crocheting? Really? I’d die! Lol!) like if you sailed and the other only bowled you may never ever cross paths much if at all!

So hope that you go where your interests are (art museum, baseball game, music event, yoga class) and meet someone where you do what you like!

Back to one of your first mentions of dual bathtub time. His attention to what I was doing (like how you were) is a compliment to the other. I’d love that that got him excited in a way. Even if say he was out of town coaching but we tlked after watching the Season Premiere for Mad Men and regroup about what happened. Or if he did go jump in his bathtub when he learned I was in mine (trust me, he’d be driving over if he got that excited!) it would have been a cute endearing part. Keeping touch in interests and showing you’re caring if only a little bit about the other’s day especially when you may be unavailable for many hours (his coaching tournaments, my working on special contracts and overtime) means those times are crucial to staying involved and in touch and saying you care about the other person’s day, however trivial it may be.

Common concern and decency provide a sense of comfort in honing the friendship side.

I just found your blog through your follow on twitter (cheers) – thanks for the laughs!! Haven’t read much so far – since half hour ago when i woke up! seems fair!! Looking for the (lazy) subscribe option lol

Ps i don’t eat sushi blergh ick (however I love the little bottles the sauce comes in – awww). Passion fruit – what is the mf deal with the SEEDS?? My MOTY used to make cake. You would think nice? No! SEEEDS! Passionfruit – the only thing that can ruin cake 🙁 yes it’s personal bahaha childhood flashbacks!!

Thanks for reading and the nice compliment!

Yeah, and in order to find them you need to know exactly what you’re looking for. Oh, and you need some form of a marketing strategy, too. 🙂

You’re right – it’s always the little things. Relationship guru John Gottman calls them “bids for attention” – how do you respond to your partner’s bids. He maintains that turning toward those bids, as opposed to turning away is the key to a successful relationship. Makes sense to me!

I only do conjugation at the trailers in prison. Really easy to get some strange there. Some dangerous strange.

100% agreed. And passion fruit itself doesn’t even make the top 20 of fruits. It’s just blah.

It’s exactly what I meant! You’re like Kreskin! (google it)