I imagine every woman has one of these stories.
This morning, my girlfriend received a text message from a guy she went out with a few times over a year ago. They haven’t spoken since, and I don’t think he even lives in the same state.
The message was something like, “I know I’m not supposed to say this, but I really want to XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX.” And I’m not bleeping it out because it’s suggestive. I’m bleeping it out because it’s crazy graphic. It was very specific. Oddly specific.
She sent me an email because she was really upset about it and wanted me to know that this happened. I sort of laughed it off because this is dumb guy behavior. Women, you need to know this – there’s a least three guys that think of banging you every night as they fall to sleep. Trust me. And these guys don’t care if you’re married, post-menopausal, or seven months pregnant. They will always want you. Forever.
My dad taught this to me in college when I dated a very beautiful woman. I complained that guys were always hitting on her, and he said, “Yeah. That’s because she’s pretty. Get used to it.”
The interesting thing about the situation with my current girlfriend is that apparently a week ago he made contact via text and asked how she was doing. She said she was in a relationship, and he said he was as well. That was the end of the conversation.
Then at 9am EST, he wrote that text to her. What’s awesome is that he must have been at work. To write explicit sex texts to a girl you went on a date with over a year ago during the coffee hour is pretty intense.
Now, of course I want to slam this guy’s face into the gravel and break each tooth with repeated steel-toe boot kicks. I would enjoy that. But, I don’t even know this joker’s name nor where he lives. Probably a good thing.
For my girlfriend this problem had an easy solution. She simply blocked this loser’s phone number.
When I read the email she sent me this morning, I laughed. Why? Because I trust my girlfriend. She’s trustworthy. And every girl I know has some idiot that keeps texting her. That’s when I realized how important trust is in a relationship. Since I trust her, it’s no big deal. Now, I do want this guy to become crippled with gout by noon tomorrow, and I will pray to Jesus tonight to make this happen.
But in a healthy relationship, things like this are really more funny than anything. It reminds me how lucky I am to have someone who I trust and who trusts me. Good stuff.
YoungmanBrown says:
It really is something that is inevitable in every relationship. Half of me is proud when guys check out the girl that I am with, and half of me is angry at them, and wanting to bark at them to back off.
wilyguy says:
Reminds me of “Next Contestant” by Nickleback
HeyMikey says:
You could have just written “curbjob”. Anyone who doesn’t know what that means could have looked it up.
Sorry to lash out but I’m extra crabby because I have to make a special trip back to
K-Mark to return some merch.
Stilts says:
Kudos to both of you. Her, for sharing the text with you so honestly. You, for handling it so well outwardly, rather than demanding his name/number so you can engage in a macho gorilla chest-thumping contest. Mutual trust and respect of that degree is hard to find. Awesome.
And this? “…every girl I know has some idiot that keeps texting her”? It’s a relief to hear you say that. I’ve have more than a few of those lately, and they really bother us ladies! As in, need a shower after reading it. Yuck. Your gf was smart to just block him and shake off the heebie-jeebies.
Jessica_thereader says:
I think this might be the perfect topic for an upcoming “Rachel and Delfin Argue.” I’d love to hear both of your opinions on the damage inappropriate texting and online flirting can do to your relationship.
I have to say that I was more disappointed than upset by this whole text thing. I want to be valued as a friend and a person, not as a potential f@ck. I also don’t need or want sexual attention (serious, joking, or otherwise) from anyone other than my significant other (that’s you, DJP III!!!). I’m confident in my own skin and with my value to my friends, family, and to the world for that matter. In my humble opinion, people that need to engage in this type of talk outside of their relationships are attention whores and have a lot of soul searching to do.
Andi Roo says:
A friend I used to flirt with in HS got in touch with me a couple years back, & I was thrilled to hear from him… but in a “Hey, how ya doin’?” kind of way. I made it clear I was married w/ children, & happily so, & he responded by saying he didn’t mind all that, if I ever wanted a “get away”. *ick*… I mean, thanks for the compliment? I guess? But seriously… not so much, dude. All this time I thought he was a creep; it’s good to know he was just a typical male. Thanks for the insight! 🙂
Andi-Roo /// @theworld4realz
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HillyG says:
The weekend after I got engaged, I got a phone call from a guy I went out with twice asking me if I want to go out again. I said “dude, I’m getting married” and his answer was “so?” – klassy. Super klassy. He also told me he saw pictures of my now-husband on Facebook and wanted me to know that he’s better looking than my husband. Sounds like your girlfriend’s douche and my douche went to Douche University together.
D.J. Paris says:
@HillyG I’ll tell my friend Harold to knock it off. Sorry.
CONGRATS ON GETTING ENGAGED, HILLERS!
D.J. Paris says:
@HillyG Oh wait, I read that wrong. You’re already married. Crap. Ignore. Ha.
HillyG says:
@delfinparis HAHAHAHA, I was at a wedding when I read this and it made me laugh very hard! Not only am I hitched, I’ve got a little bambino of my own. He and my half-pincher/half-chihuahua are inseparable.
D.J. Paris says:
@HillyG I’m only interested in the half-chihuahua.
SaafaAlaoui says:
Quel idot!! I’ve had similar experience with my ex who thought i was his property. According to his logic, i wasn’ t allowed to move on with my life. He claimed dibs LOL. Good riddance!
D.J. Paris says:
@SaafaAlaoui Yeah, I don’t let women go, either. IF I CAN’T HAVE THEM NOBODY CAN. Just kidding, I don’t care about anyone other than myself.
storksimply says:
trust is important!…your lucky to have it. take a moment to thank the good Lord for that one!!!
simply
D.J. Paris says:
@storksimply Thank you, good Lord! (that sounded weird)
D.J. Paris says:
A friend I used to flirt with in HS got in touch with me a couple years back, & I was thrilled to hear from him… but in a “Hey, how ya doin’?” kind of way. I made it clear I was married w/ children, & happily so, & he responded by saying he didn’t mind all that, if I ever wanted a “get away”. *ick*… I mean, thanks for the compliment? I guess? But seriously… not so much, dude. All this time I thought he was a creep; it’s good to know he was just a typical male. Thanks for the insight! 🙂
Andi-Roo /// @theworld4realz
http://www.theworld4realz.com/
theworldforrealz@gmail.com
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